If you’ve been following along at home, you’ll remember I recently wrote about the book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up” – Marie Kondo‘s step-by-step guide to de-cluttering your life.
Well, right after that, I read another great book which at first seems to be at complete odds with the the previous book, “The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k.” by Sarah Knight.
However, both books have had a pretty epic impact.
The first, to the state of my house (though, looking around right now you would never know it) and now this one, to the state of my mind.
“The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k” is a hilarious and unexpectedly practical guide to de-cluttering your head, deciding where to exert your mental energy and getting your sh*t together.
The process goes like this:
- Decide what you don’t give a fuck about.
- Don’t give a fuck about those things
I have been giving this some serious thought, and wanted to jot down my list of things I don’t give a f*ck about.
My hope is that this will help me gain some more clarity around what actually makes me happy, and what it is I actually want to be spending my time on, so that I can allocate my f*cks accordingly.
So in no particular order
Things I Don’t Give A F*ck About
(as it stands June 2017)
1. Rsvp-ing No To Social Events
The fastest way to burnout for me, is a loaded calendar and no time to regroup. So if we haven’t had a quiet weekend at home in months or if we get an invitation for an evening soiree to celebrate the job promotion of a cousin I have met once, I have decided it is ok to reply with a polite thanks but no thanks and stay home and watch Shrek, if that is what we all need.
2. Burpies
I have the power to decide if I ever want to do another burpie in my life and at this stage – I don’t.
3. State of Origin
Sorry mates, not interested in coming over for pizza and the game. DGAF who wins.
4. Doing Things Perfectly
In the words of Elizabeth Gilbert “Done is better than good”. As soon as I realised things don’t have to be perfect for me to set them free into the world (eg. this blog) I suddenly found all this courage and momentum to put some plans into motion.
5. How many followers your Dog has on Instagram
I feel this needs no explanation.
6. If my honesty offends
I don’t go out of my way to be blunt, I don’t even really know I do it, but I have been told that at times, I have a real knack for leaving tact at the door when it comes to telling it straight.
7. If I am too old to be wearing short short
I have a particular pair of faves that are borderline hoochi mama but given the option of hoochi vs frumpy I would take hoochi every time.
8. Star Wars
Sorry babe I tried, but I just DGAF
9. Hallmark Cards
I can’t justify the $5 unless I have something exceptional to say. For a regular birthday I am more likely to write a big ol’ happy birthday in sharpie on your present and give you a fat kiss on the cheek to show you I care.
10. About the shape and size of my fruit and vege
Coles and Woolworths I’m talking to you. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you should watch this.
11. If you are a man or woman and love a man or a women
Love is love.
12. Paying more tax
I don’t mind paying more if it means I get to live in a society with health care, community services and free education.
13. Accepting unwanted household items from family members
I hope it doesn’t sound ungrateful, but obligatory hoarding is the worst. There are only so many teacups a girl needs.
14. That it is actually faster to drive home the other way
Please don’t mess with my system.
15. What my kids wear out in public
This took me a while, because there is definitely a part of me that would love my kids to share my love for linen and denim and stripes but if it is a gumboot and cinderella nightie kind of day, I have quit arguing. Really, it is far more important to me to foster expression so after about age 2 I happily hand over all control. You do you girlfriend.
16. If you breastfed, formula fed, home birthed, hospital birthed your babes
Because parenthood is tough enough without having to defend the way we choose (or don’t choose) to parent.
17. How much I weigh
An eating disorder plagued late teens/early twenties handed that number on a screen waaaay more power than it deserved. Haven’t owned a scale in years. DFAF about the quantity of matter contained in my body.
18. Game of Thrones
I gave it a crack but Jai zoomed off ahead of me somewhere back in season 1 and I never gave it another thought.
19. Getting Older
So far my 30’s have been a hoot. Onward and upward!
20. Deciding what to do with my life
This old chestnut has given me much grief over the years. but after quarter life crisis number 3, and a bit of self reflection I no longer GAF.
21. Fashion Trends
I love fashion, but sometimes I still love the fashion that the fashionable have since deemed unfashionable. DGAF
22. What other people eat
Vegetarian, Paleo, Dairy Free – Lets all eat what we want and leave it at that.
23. If People See Me Without Makeup
I love makeup, but somedays I also love having a naked face, eye bags and all.
24. Cranky people
I used to take it so personally when a colleague or a person in the line at coles was rude. Then I realised its not about me at all.
25. ???
I need one more to round this out! Nothing springs to mind. Any ideas? Let me know what you DGAF about in the comments below. x
Bonus:
While writing this list I put Jai on the spot and asked him for a run down of things he doesn’t give a f*ck about.
1.Reality TV and TV in general
I want to watch a story in an hour and a half not over 10 hour long episodes.
2. Celebrity Gossip
I wouldn’t even know most celebrities if I walked right into them.
3. How good coffee is for you
I love coffee, but I have recently discovered that I am way better off without it, so stop trying to convince me to get back on it.
4. Whether you are offended…
…If I call you out for being racist/misogynist
5. What religion you are
Everyone is entitled to believe whatever they want. No one is welcome to try and force their belief on anyone else.
Sarah Knight also did a TED Talk on this very subject which is a nice intro if you are keen to write your own list.
14 comments
Love love love this list!! So many things that I DNGAF about but at the moment if I had to choose one it would be “toxic people”. Life is WAY too short for that shit. PS that book feels like it could be my Bible.
YES! Maybe that can be my number 25.. and you need to get his book asap! She has another one called Get Your Sh*t Together. I have just started it but so far..I feel another game changer coming on
I have Sarah’s book on my bedside table. Not giving a f*ck was a lovely gift. #teamIBOT
It is such a lovely gift! I tell everyone about it
I love your list and am so on board with so many of these, particularly numbers 15, 21 & 23 (although with 23 I’d have to wear make-up more often than once in a blue moon to even think about it, I can just never be bothered with it #laziestwomanever)
Once I started really thinking about them.. they just kept on rolling! and I too fall into the laziestwomanever team for sure!
#9 speaks volumes for me. I cannot even cope with cards. Waste of money and I’m always sticks whether or to throw them out or not.
I know, about a minute after I open it i am like…hmmm now what?
I’m with you on most of these except Game of Thrones. Game of Thrones is awesome.
haha! I wont hold it against you x
I’m loving your list! I seriously need to get this book. I have a tendency to get pissed at cranky people (living in a small town can be hard) but you make a good point – it’s not about you. And totally with you on the coffee love. Are you aware hoe many Instagram accounts mention coffee lover bla bla bla! It’s like EVERYONE is about coffee. Do us chai latte drinkers or tea drinkers carry on about it? Hell no we drink it and carry on! xx
You really do need to get the book! It’s a game changer and you are so right about the coffee thing! I hadn’t really thought about how many people spam coffee content in insta until you mentioned it!